What Does “It’s Not You, It’s Me” Really Mean When You’re Getting Dumped or Dumping Someone”
So honestly how many of you have ever used the “It’s not you, it’s me” excuse? Be honest with yourself. If you use this excuse it is just not okay.
If you used this excuse, I will reveal what you probably, really meant to say and if your exes ever see this they may call you out for it (so do not share this site with your exes and if your exes find this information anyway, it is not my fault).
However, before I do that I just wanted to show what Metro’s survey on the top reasons of break ups.
"1. The ‘spark’ was no longer there – 51%
2. Infidelity – 34%
3. Arguments over money issues – 33%
4. Personality differences became too much – 19%
5. One of us fell for someone new – 18%."
As I discussed earlier in my first blog “The Ugly Truth about Marriage and Dating,” I stated that if your desires are not being fulfilled in your relationship then you do not want to be in it anymore. So now that we all know this, what does this mean exactly?
It means that you did not solve all their problems or keep them happy by fulfilling all their desires. *Gasp*
How could you? Just joshing ya. However, I cannot completely blame you. You may not even know what they needed to have all their desires met, whether you are a married couple or an unmarried couple. I understand that even couples need to keep a couple of secrets from their loved ones, so it is not as if you would know everything about your partner.
So what couldn’t you give them? Love? Money? Perfection? Space? Effective Communication? Anything else their hearts desired? Well whatever it was/is, that just made it easier for them to leave you.
Here is how it happens. Look at the song “What Goes Around/Comes Around” by Justin Timberlake. “Hey, girl . . . Is he everything you wanted in a man? You know I gave you the world,” clearly JT gave her everything, “
,” yet the love disappeared into the thin air; “Should've known better when you came around that you were going to make me cry, it’s breaking my heart to watch you run around 'Cause I know that you're living a lie.”
She left him for another man and why? Because she was not satisfied, left him broken and hurt. Why? Because of her selfish expectations, she brought into the relationship.
There are other people out there like that as well, they have expectations. After a certain time together they expect sex, but if they do not get it then the idea of breaking up all of sudden is brought up. Does it seem fair that this happens? No, it is not, but it even happens in married couples. Some spouses are busier than others right, right? So what happens while, one spouse is busy most of the time and can’t be there for their spouse? The other spouse may feel a couple of things, such as boredom, loneliness, anger, and other things with their relationship, which overall means that they are not satisfied in their relationship anymore. It is also a possibility that they have fallen out of love, because the love given to them was not enough.
Alternatively, maybe you are in relationship with a high maintenance partner, and while you can support their needs now what happens if you are fired? They will dump you faster than the speed of light!
Love is like a building without the strong foundation it will crumble into rumble and dust, if you do not build a good foundation or lose it what holding it together?
You can forget about those many years of building a strong relationship, forget the many fights that almost broke the relationship but you worked it out, forget those all the hard work that was used to maintain your relationship. With these needs not being met, it is as if the love has suddenly dwindled in the relationship. Like it vanished into thin air “[Whoosh].
Just look at that monkey's reaction. So be warned! You should know ahead of time what you and your partner want in the relationship or it could fail and someone will be heartbroken.