Media: The Truth’s and Myths of Relationships
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Who here watches Disney Movies? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?
It is all right if you do, there is no need to be ashamed, even adults watch Disney Movies. So what's the basic plot line for a Disney Movie? Well basically, the main character has a sad life in the beginning, which leads to meeting “the one,” fighting for him, or her, and then finally the two live (say it with me now) “happily ever after.” Sound familiar?
However, where is the realism in these stories, or any other fictional movie, honestly!?
Have you ever seen a real prince sweep the princess off her feet?
Ever witness a real cowboy save the damsel in distress?
Experienced a relationship heavily showered with love and romance?
Have you ever seen a real life situation where the good guys most always get the girls?
Well . . ., have you?
I thought not! Forget what the media tells you about how relationships should be—they are wrong. The media has an unrealistic view about how relationships really are, which leads people to believe false views, and it could lead to failure in the relationship. The best way to learn how relationships really work is to experience one for yourself and learn from your mistakes. As the saying goes, “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.” To put it all together into one major theme, REALISTIC goals need to be set.
So how exactly does the media manipulate and influence our opinions of dating and marriage?
Let’s look at Taylor Swift.
Think of the main songs people always hear about: they are either about heartbreaks or happy couples. “Blank Space,” “I Knew You Were Trouble,” “You Belong With Me,” “We Are Never Getting Back Together,” “Teardrops on My Guitar,” …all of these songs deal with break ups.
The key point, in the song “Mine,” there are these simple lyrics: “I was a flight risk with a fear of fallin’. Wondering why we bother with love if it never lasts.”
Obviously, she understands that love may not always last, so what does she decide to do? She starts a relationship, which ends up in failure.
Which can be heard in “I Knew You Were Trouble” her lyrics scream of heartbreak “Oh I knew you were trouble when you walked in so shame on me now, you flew me to places I'd never been, now I'm lying on the cold hard ground.”
I mean come on people; she knew he was trouble and that it would most likely end up in heartbreak, sooo… WHY DO IT!?!? It’s like the people in a horror film, who decide to check out a creepy hallway and then they end up dead, while everyone watching it is saying no, screaming, “Get out, you idiot!”
Granted, it is just a song, but this could relate to one of Taylor Swift’s many break ups and how she dealt with it. Even if it is fiction, the song is popular and even if you do not like the song, most people can relate to it. Either they experienced this before or they can empathize with the song. Artists always write songs that people can relate either to, generally meaning they got the idea from their own life or from someone else’s’. Either way, somebody went through a similar situation.
People seek out relationships even when they know that it could fail, and for all they know they may end up together for years or they could break up in a few months or so. You never know.